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Slohse

Slohse
United States  


  9/27/2014

*eye twitch* 2 years of writing... 12 chapters... 30 pages... All deleted... *bursts into tears*

[nsleepy]
 
Lenn

Lenn
Netherlands  


  9/27/2014

*hugs* no backups?

Ik zwaai met mijn handen en mijn handen zwaaien terug.
 
razander
Manic Scribbler

razander
United States  


  9/27/2014  1

Oh. Oh god! I don't know what I'd do if that ever happened to me. What happened? How'd they get deleted? Also, don't make any new files and look at this!
 
Papriko
Peppery One

Papriko
Germany  


  9/27/2014

File recovery might be worth a try indeed. The PC does not actively delete files by default, it merely marks the spot the file occupied as free again. So it is only overwritten when you actually create a new file, like razander said.

Lets play plants! Photosynthesis... Photosynthesis... Photosynthesis...
 
Slohse

Slohse
United States  


  9/27/2014

It was in a junk folder that I deleted... And the place the backup was turned out to be empty...

[nsleepy]
 
savannahs11

savannahs11
United States  


  9/27/2014

I know how ya feel,buddy. *pulls out non-saving game* This game enrages me to the point of tears on a daily basis,but I still play it anyways because it's addicting.Here,take it.Try not to get brutally murdered while collecting spoils of war.

sleep is for the weak and i am weak
 
Lenn

Lenn
Netherlands  


  9/28/2014

found out that my ex cheated on me while we where still together. ;l

Ik zwaai met mijn handen en mijn handen zwaaien terug.
 
Slohse

Slohse
United States  


  9/28/2014

You poor thing! :( *hug*

[nsleepy]
 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  11/9/2014

I really, really dislike my one of my husband's friends. They're only expressing concern for me now that my husband is about to come home and only because they need somebody to write a positive review for their tarot stand. How disgusting! When he was leaving, she told me to lighten up because I was bringing down the mood at my husband's farewell party (not a happy event to begin with) while I was fighting to keep her daughter from sticking her fingers in my dogs' cages. The nerve of her!

Now she's telling me that the "ball's in my court" and that she's "there for me" when I'm ready to "come out of my shell". This is after canceling plans with me twice and never taking a rain check to reschedule. I eventually just gave up on her because she's really my husband's friend and now it's my responsibility to buddy up to her because she thinks I'm depressed? Ugh! All that for a stupid review on her booth! I've never even been!


Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
Trell
Wee Scrivener

Trell
Canada  

 visit Trell's website: TrellyOllyOxenFree
  11/9/2014

Aww love, I'm sorry. :( That sounds awful.

Trell
"Holy crap in a casket!"

 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  11/9/2014

I'm just getting worked up over what amounts to a drop in a bucket. It does make me feel better to get it out, though, angry as I was. It just reeks of manipulation. :/

Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
Nutter
Senior Wrangler

Nutter
United Kingdom  


  11/9/2014

Well, there's nothing that says you have to be friends with her just because your husband is - there's one of my husband's friends I won't have in the house! I can see it might be be potentially awkward if you have a lot of shared friends, but unless it's going to rock the boat to an extreme extent, why put up with her? You've made the running and it's not been enough for her.
 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  11/9/2014

Actually, I haven't seen her since my husband left. I don't even know why she's bothering to reach out to me now, besides trying to get a free boost for her business.

Eta - which I'm not writing, btw.


Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
KC11

KC11
United States  

 visit KC11's website: DragonClawWritings (Tumblr)
  11/15/2014

Hope it's still ok to post here.

There's been a lot of stuff I've been dealing with off and on for - well, for years. It's that thing where I'm typically ok but there's just some days or moments when it gets bad.

I'm estranged from my biological mother because she was abusive from the time she was 5. There's a lot of issues with that. I've recently started seeing a therapist, and she's basically said I have PTSD. She said a lot of great things, about how impressed she was with my strong, intact spirit after everything. And as she said that I immediately felt terrible. I felt like I shouldn't even be there, that I was wasting her time because I had already healed myself. Really, logically I know I need this, but I carry this constant, ever present guilt.

I've been remembering a lot of things I sort of pushed down - I didn't repress them or forget them or anything, just sort of pushed them out of my mind until recently. And it's making me just want to close myself off from everything. It's making me sick inside. I've gone through feeling angry at her, right now I just feel sick.


Do not upset the ugly worm, lest it be a dragon in disguise. (>oo)>

 
savannahs11

savannahs11
United States  


  11/16/2014

That's horrible. :( *hugs*

sleep is for the weak and i am weak
 
Malkin

Malkin
Australia  
Manager


 visit Malkin's website: Malkin's page at CWiki
  11/16/2014

*hugs*
I am glad you survived, for whatever it's worth.

It's really common to feel guilty for surviving a traumatic event. Have you told your therapist about the 'guilty' feeling?


My TCR Norns
 
KC11

KC11
United States  

 visit KC11's website: DragonClawWritings (Tumblr)
  11/16/2014

Malkin wrote:
*hugs*
I am glad you survived, for whatever it's worth.

It's really common to feel guilty for surviving a traumatic event. Have you told your therapist about the 'guilty' feeling?



I haven't really told her much about that. I've just gone through a sort of cliff notes of my past. And she looked horrified. Which made me feel worse, because I was sort of telling this stuff casually, or at least monotone. It's something I've repeated many times to people close to me, I've sort of managed to disconnect myself from it emotionally, and I guess it got to the point where I sort of forgot how horrible some of this stuff was. And I feel like I'm being weird by talking about it monotone.

Something she noticed was that my "resting" state was always on high alert, that I was constantly "vigilant" (which I found funny, since my surname literally means "vigilant" ) . She told me this was normal for people in my state. I feel like I was more nervous because I'm telling all this stuff to someone without talking about anything else. I sort of threw in some funny anecdotes about my boyfriend during the session because that's just kind of my natural reaction to go "oh hey I feel bad talking about this here's a funny"


Do not upset the ugly worm, lest it be a dragon in disguise. (>oo)>

 
Malkin

Malkin
Australia  
Manager


 visit Malkin's website: Malkin's page at CWiki
  11/16/2014

It's hard to go through your life history to someone you don't know, hopefully it'll get easier to talk to her about your emotions as you get to know her. The guilt thing could be helpful for her to know, because she might be able to help you debunk it.

My TCR Norns
 
C-Rex
Lollipop Lord

C-Rex
United Kingdom  

 visit C-Rex's website: The Norn Nebula
  11/17/2014

I'm sorry to hear about everything you've been going through KC11, you must have been through some terrible stuff. :(

Not sure if this is worth a hug, but one of my so-called college friends made me work on a 3D model for their college work, but I have been awfully busy all week with my own stuff. I did manage to get it all done today, but didn't get chance to send it to them because I forgot.

Now, when I tell him I'll send it to him tomorrow, he acts all funny towards me saying something along the lines of "for godsake", which is totally out of order, and he even said he'd be spending all of tomorrow playing video games! He also directly insulted me last week,, saying I spend too much time on my computer, and has also spoken about another of my friends behind their back. It's seriously driving me insane. [nangry]


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KC11

KC11
United States  

 visit KC11's website: DragonClawWritings (Tumblr)
  11/19/2014

C-Rex wrote:
I'm sorry to hear about everything you've been going through KC11, you must have been through some terrible stuff. :(

Not sure if this is worth a hug, but one of my so-called college friends made me work on a 3D model for their college work, but I have been awfully busy all week with my own stuff. I did manage to get it all done today, but didn't get chance to send it to them because I forgot.

Now, when I tell him I'll send it to him tomorrow, he acts all funny towards me saying something along the lines of "for godsake", which is totally out of order, and he even said he'd be spending all of tomorrow playing video games! He also directly insulted me last week,, saying I spend too much time on my computer, and has also spoken about another of my friends behind their back. It's seriously driving me insane. [nangry]



That doesn't really sound like much of a friend, I'm sorry. I'd try to talk to him about it, and if he keeps it up drop him like a stone. You're the one who's being generous enough to help him with this project, one that I assume he could probably do himself, and he's complaining? Who cares if he's spending all of tomorrow playing video games, that's not on you. It's not like he can't take maybe 5 minutes to open or save your file wherever it needs to be saved.

You're worth more than to have to deal with this jerkface.


Do not upset the ugly worm, lest it be a dragon in disguise. (>oo)>

 
Trell
Wee Scrivener

Trell
Canada  

 visit Trell's website: TrellyOllyOxenFree
  11/20/2014

I've had a lot of doctors appointments lately and there's so much going on and I'm really really stressed out. [nsad]

Trell
"Holy crap in a casket!"

 
Nutter
Senior Wrangler

Nutter
United Kingdom  


  11/20/2014

*huggles all the distressed people*
 
NimhsLab

NimhsLab
United States  


  11/20/2014

*The huggles have been doubled*

Lately my anxiety has really been getting to me, this constant nagging feeling that something is going to go wrong...


[chirping and clicking] Clicks for a winter god! >
 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  11/20/2014

I want to triple the huggles but I'm sick with a cold and don't want to make anyone's problems worse. :C

Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
NimhsLab

NimhsLab
United States  


  11/20/2014  1

It's ok, kezune, you're huggling in spirit.

[chirping and clicking] Clicks for a winter god! >
 
Slohse

Slohse
United States  


  11/20/2014

Is having a terrible, horrible, really bad day and needs a hug.

[nsleepy]
 
ylukyun
Chaotic Chimera

ylukyun

Manager



  11/22/2014

*hugs NimhsLab and mlohse*
 
razander
Manic Scribbler

razander
United States  


  1/4/2015

I don't know if this is true of all long-distance relationships, but if it's any consolation, my GF and I had the same problems and anxiety. Once, while I was on a family trip, I had no access to the internet or phone for a whole day. My GF jumped to the worst conclusion and thought I had gotten injured or even died! [nlaugh] It's something we laugh about now.

I'm not sure what you can do to fully erase the anxiety, but diverting your attention to something you can work on, and talk about with him later (interesting book? etc.) is worth a try.

 
SpaceShipRat

SpaceShipRat
Italy  


  6/13/2015

I'm working on my Uni thesis, and there's another student working sort on the same project. We're supposed to do two different individual works of course, but we meet up with the prof. at the same time, to talk about what we've done and get some guidance.

The other student is an BUTT. He misses half the appointments, announcing it the morning of the same day. I had to get papers printed and signed for him because he "couldn't be there". When he does get there, it's an hour late, with some excuse about the trains.
This annoys the prof. and given I've been 1 to 10 minutes later a few times, (by being horribly scatterbrained and forgetting my documents or my cellphone) I get yelled at like I'm also being as disrespectful as he is.

If it was only that!

He never organizes anything, it's gotten to the point the prof calls me and tells me to "call my colleague and schedule a meeting". Last time I did, he called that morning saying "I'm sick, I'm puking everywhere! I'll call you this evening to reschedule!" Didn't hear from him again, not in the two weeks that followed.

The last time we met with the prof, yesterday morning, he got there with nothing to show, he brought some utterly irrelevant stuff about a cool program he found to make presentations with. 1 hr of posticipating the meeting to accomodate him, + 1 hr of getting lectured about how much of an idiot he is, = I didn't have time to ask everything I had to, AND I was tired and irritated, and so was the prof, so it was a needlessly aggressive exchange, like I don't already find any social interaction exhausting.

I'm a forgiving person, I really am, but I do NOT like double-faced people, and this guy acts really sweet, polite and apologetic in front of the teachers, and then rants about how annoying they are when it's just the two of us walking away.
Even the dear, old retired primary school professor who is helping us, yeah, he talks a bit much, but you were the one asking him questions, acting really interested... I really do despise and mistrust people who act nice in public then try to complain and gossip at me. Like I can't deduce you'll be talking *** about me later with your friends?

I do NOT need the extra stress, I'm not going to try and help him anymore, he can get his own act toghether if he wants to finish this on time. AND when I see my teachers I want my mind to be on my work, not distracted in anticipating arguments around this jerk

 
jcnorn

jcnorn
Sweden  


  6/14/2015

*hugs on tightly!* The professor really shouldn't be yelling at you like you were this irresponsible person. You aren't him!

And he most likely talk bad about you with others too, that's how those people function :( You're doing the right thing, focus on you instead! You are what is important here, not him.

 
C-Rex
Lollipop Lord

C-Rex
United Kingdom  

 visit C-Rex's website: The Norn Nebula
  6/14/2015

That sounds an awful lot like a person I often speak to on my college course, SpaceshipRat, thinking he's better than everybody else, when really he is a complete and utter jerk. [nangry]

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Wingheart

Wingheart
New Zealand  


  10/5/2015

*offers hugs to C-Rex*
That's awful.

 
Dragoler
Wrong Banshee

Dragoler
United Kingdom  


  10/6/2015

Oh man that's tough, sorry C-Rex :(
Let him know that everything he feels is temporary, no matter how hopeless it seems in the moment.
There are days that I feel hopeless, and keeping that in mind helps me keep my spirits up, so it might help him too.


Creator of the TWB/TCB genome base.

 
C-Rex
Lollipop Lord

C-Rex
United Kingdom  

 visit C-Rex's website: The Norn Nebula
  10/6/2015

Thank you Dragoler. I've agreed to speak to him again tomorrow, and have assured him that if he has any problems he can come to me. The funny thing is, I used to go to him for advice. Now I'm the one helping him out.

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Jacob

Jacob
United Kingdom  


  10/9/2015

Hey C-Rex, I appreciate you're going through a rough time right now. I've been through what you're going through on more than one occasion, so I do understand how it may feel right now.

But, I dunno, something doesn't rub me the right way about discussing it so openly on a forum. Some people don't react well to discussions about suicide and friends lost, it's one of those sensitive spots where you REALLY don't know who gets affected by what and why, and it's probably for the best that those sort of feeling are respected during these times.

Not to mini-mod or anything, because that is absolutely not my place. But a public forum of this nature just doesn't the right sort of place to discuss your friends personal struggles and also just for this... well INTENSE of a topic, I do legitimately feel that it's something that's better discussed over PM. If you understand?


Not really active around these parts anymore.
 

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